It’s been quite the month for Romance for a Reason! I’ve had some terrific reviews of Unbridled (any review is terrific; keep that in mind if you want to help a girl out!). I took part in two interviews each with some unique and new questions. I’ve visited 18 different sites where I’ve shared my writing and more importantly spoke the two causes Romance for a Reason is supporting. And, of course, I posted frequently about females in fiction, tackling my ‘must-do’ list for strong heroines. Today I’ve reached number nine: eliminating cattiness.
If you missed the first posts click on the titles to catch up. For the rest of the interviews, excerpts, and reviews, visit the calendar on the Romance for a Reason page for links.
Top ten things more fictional (and real-life) females ought to do:
9. Eliminate cattiness.
10. Cry a little & laugh a lot.
Our Own Worst Enemy
Okay. I admit it. I occasionally like to read about (or watch) a good catfight. It’s a guilty pleasure readers and writers need to give in to from time to time. We can’t expect our heroines to always be ‘above it all.’ After all, who of us claim to never have gotten sucked into the gossiping and or bickering our gender is unfortunately infamous for?
But occasionally succumbing to such practices is different from having them be commonplace enough that they become a character trait, rather than a moment of weakness. Our heroines ought to have the grace and dignity to stay out of the mud throwing most days. Who wants a strong female character who can’t tolerate and tears down other strong female characters? If writers want to entertain us with gossiping, backstabbing wenches, by all means bring on the cheek slapping and nail scratching. But please write it in a way that it’s quite clear to the reader who the ‘good guys,’ or girls in this case, are and who is simply meant to be the nasty foil for them. This way we get the fun of watching the witches, while illuminating everything that’s wrong about their bad behavior and everything that is right about our heroines. It’s bad enough female celebrities flood the media with this kind of bad behavior, but, at least in that case, few are deeming them heroes. Sadly, we’re all too disillusioned to have many real-life heroes anymore, especially among celebrities. The least we can ask for is that our fictional females portray the better side of female nature.
Let’s face it, if we can’t boost each other up, in books as well as life, than who’s going to do it for us? I’d hate to be the woman who makes it to the top only to find I’ve got no amazing girl friends left with whom to enjoy my success!
Want to help support some real-life heroines?
October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month and National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. As the daughter of a breast cancer survivor and a friend and teacher of too many women who’ve been affected by violence, I chose it to also to be the release date for Unbridled. I may not love wearing pink or purple, the colors of these two issues, but I do love a good fight for great causes. I’ve just chosen to battle this one with my pen. Please consider helping!
Donate. Make your own individual donation to these two charities or choose a local charity supporting
these and other causes affecting women in your area. To learn more about each charity and my reasons for choosing them, visit the Romance for a Reason page. Or click through to donate directly.
Party hard. Gather the women (and men!) of your book club or just a group of friends for a Romance for Reason party. Party ideas? Check out my blog for ideas on how to plan your gathering. Then download the Romance Reading Questionnaire and/or the Body Lingo Bingo for some fun party activities! (My own book club met just this past week, raised some money, and had a blast!)
Share. Tweet, status update, review, or just chat with friends about the books, the tour, and the charities (mine or yours)!
As a thank you for your help, I’m doing a Rafflecopter giveaway during the blog tour. Be sure to enter to win one of two prize packages!